What should I do if I think my adolescent is sexually active?
Open communication is the key! Communication enhances closeness, and teens who feel close to their parents are much less likely to engage in risky behavior.1
To start, look for teaching opportunities and use them. Find natural “launch pads” such as a television show or life situations that happen.
Ask open-ended questions about the show/situation.
Don’t overreact to something they say, even if it’s not what you expect to hear.
If you aren’t sure how to respond, be honest…”I’m not sure how to respond but would like to talk about this some more later, okay?” This would give you the opportunity to research the topic or even call ComfortCare for support.
Be confident! Research shows that YOU are an important influence on your adolescent’s sexual behavior. 3,4,5
Don’t send mixed messages! Teens whose parents express disapproval of nonmarital sex and contraceptive use are less likely than their peers to have sex.6
Explain that condoms and contraceptives NEVER make nonmarital sex “safe enough”. The evidence can’t be denied. About half of the all new cases of STIs occur in 15- to 24- year olds, even though they make up only 25% of the sexually active population.7 In light of this information, if you find in your conversation, that your adolescent has been sexually active, get them tested for STIs. Your healthcare provider can do this or it is offered free of charge through the Health Department.
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2. Whitaker d, miller K. Parent-adolescent discussions about sex and condoms: impact on peer influences of sexual risk behavior. J Adolesc Res. 2000;15(2):251-273.
4. Resnick M, Bearman D, Blum R, et al. Protecting adolescents from harm. Findings from the national longitudinal study on adolescent health. JAMA. 1997;278(10):823-832.
5. Dilorio C, Kelley M, Hockenberry-Eaton M. Communications about sexual issues: mothers, fathers, and friends. J Adolesc Health. 1999;24(3):181-189